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Posted: 19 November 2004 11:57 AM     [ Ignore ]  
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I posted this in my livejournal and I’m too damn lazy to retype it for these forums.  This is a situation happening between me and my current boyfriend.  It’s really emo, I admit that but kiss my butt.  😛

Let’s say you have someone you are really head over heals for. They claim they are head over heals for you too. But when it comes to doing things with you, they don’t. They’re always sick, or depressed, or have plans with someone else. They promise to do something with you a week ago, and when you call them to plan the thing they said they’re going to do, they don’t. See reasons above. Then, you date. But they refuse to tell their parents about you. “If you loved me you’d respect my desisions why.” Even though it hurts you deep down that they’re not telling anyone. You decide to take a break. You’re miserable, they seem indifferent about it. They could care less. But they still claim they love you. When you go over to take care of something you left at their house, they are kind of loving and then have sex with you. But then won’t cuddle, won’t kiss or anything else. You feel extremely lonely every night, like someone’s ripped your heart out of your chest. You want to scream and cry, but they shut down every time you try to talk to them. You spent oodles of money on a gift that you can’t return, and now you don’t even know if you want to give to to them. Your heart aches because of how much you want to be loved, and cuddled, and romantisied, but you can’t have it.

What would drive a guy to be like that?  I mean, I know I should leave him and everything, but I really do love him.  Part of me thinks, wow I must really be horrible… -_-

Opinions on this?  I know I’m probably gonna get a lot of flack here, but I’m looking for opinions from like, everyone…

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Posted: 19 November 2004 12:02 PM   [ # 1 ]     [ Ignore ]   [ # 1 ]  
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He’s using you for sex…plain and simple.  Put the gift on E-bay if you can’t return it. 

If I did to a woman what you described, it would be because I’ve fallen out of love with her, and I’m too afraid to tell it to her straight.  At the same time, the sex is a good deal so it gives me another reason not to say anything.  On the other hand I don’t want my friends/family to think it’s serious.

Sounds like you’re leaning towards leaving him.  :think:

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Posted: 19 November 2004 12:11 PM   [ # 2 ]     [ Ignore ]   [ # 2 ]  
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What Hector said.

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Posted: 19 November 2004 04:28 PM   [ # 3 ]     [ Ignore ]   [ # 3 ]  
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Lets continue the chain.

What Andru Said.

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Posted: 19 November 2004 04:28 PM   [ # 4 ]     [ Ignore ]   [ # 4 ]  
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he’s a jerk

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Posted: 19 November 2004 04:32 PM   [ # 5 ]     [ Ignore ]   [ # 5 ]  
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What ridv Said.

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Posted: 19 November 2004 04:34 PM   [ # 6 ]     [ Ignore ]   [ # 6 ]  
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What Xcaret sai—oh wait, ****!!

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Posted: 19 November 2004 04:45 PM   [ # 7 ]     [ Ignore ]   [ # 7 ]  
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I broke up with him tonight, it was really really hard, but I told him we can still be friends.  Maybe when he gets his #### straight we can get back together, but I don’t see it happening any time soon.  It really hurt to hear him begin to cry too…but what could I do?  ...I hate dating…

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Posted: 19 November 2004 04:48 PM   [ # 8 ]     [ Ignore ]   [ # 8 ]  
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Hey it’s three strikes and you’re out.  At least until you get married, when you’re stuck with each other.  :sick:

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Posted: 19 November 2004 04:52 PM   [ # 9 ]     [ Ignore ]   [ # 9 ]  
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Once again ladies and gentlemen. What Hector said :D

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Posted: 19 November 2004 04:53 PM   [ # 10 ]     [ Ignore ]   [ # 10 ]  
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[quote author=“ridv3490”]Once again ladies and gentlemen. What Hector said :D

Aww shucks.  I’m not a good example for married wannabe’s.  :oops:

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Posted: 19 November 2004 06:26 PM   [ # 11 ]     [ Ignore ]   [ # 11 ]  
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well better to find out earlier than be stuck.  I dink no guy would ever date u and not tell the world about it unless they’re not serious about it.
but that’s just my opinion.

Take it from the married guys.  :D
better get it right than get stuck.

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Posted: 19 November 2004 07:05 PM   [ # 12 ]     [ Ignore ]   [ # 12 ]  
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Yep. I have enough examples of depressed married men at my work to know not to get married or serious anytime soon.  😛 Of course, I wouldn’t do what that guy did. That’s just wrong. N(

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Posted: 22 November 2004 06:25 AM   [ # 13 ]     [ Ignore ]   [ # 13 ]  
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I’m glad to hear you broke up with his sorry ass. You deserve better 😉  he’s the type of guy most girls fall for though .... the assholes. Us, nice guys never get the girl ...

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