kkk so talk serious like it matter and confront her. Sounds good ill try it.

okay my girlfriends like best guyfriend whom she is extremely tight with is a compelte jack*** to me… he is seriously making up stuff about me and saying stuff to her that isnt true and i seriously think he is trying to break us up. I dunno what to do.. i want to confront her but she might think im jealous or something. err help?

In my opinion, I say screw what she might or might not think about you. If it’s something threatening the relationship, I suggest bringing it up to her. And soon—the longer you wait, the more it’ll build up, and the more she’ll be wondering why you didn’t bring it up to her sooner.

I know not all relationships are like mine, but if there’s ever a problem from either side (me or the other person), it’s addressed immediately no matter how stupid it may sound. They’re YOUR feelings on the line. I’ve always been one to say, “If you cry over stepping on an ant, then so be it. Those are your feelings, and you can cry all you want.”

I think you should bring this up to HER and not ask us. I would hate it if my boyfriend asked some other people for help on what to do instead of coming to me directly. ESPECIALLY when my input matters most.

As far as how you should go about doing it, don’t go up to her like you’re whining or crying about it (and I know you won’t ‘cause you’re Mr. Gohan, and Mr. Gohan is a big boy =P Haha), but go up to her calmly and say that it’s bothering you and that it should bother HER that it’s bothering you because if it didn’t, then she doesn’t care enough. Talk to her civilly, and she’ll be willing to listen. Even more so, she might even be more sympathetic to you if you brought it up to her in a MATURE manner. I can’t emphasize enough how *mature* you need to be when bringing this matter up. Don’t fight with her, and don’t cry about it. Just be calm and say, “Hey, it’s bothering me. Here’s why it bothers me,” etc.

In other words, just be business-like about it. That’s kinda how I am a lot of times. =P

i’d have to agree with andreux on this one. I’ve learned that when there’s a problem, just go to her and talk about it as soon as you can. I found out the “blow it off and it’ll be gone after awhile” usually doesn’t work. Most women I’ve been in spats with will give the “well, if you spoke to me right away, it wouldn’t of gotten so bad, etc etc”

listen to el andreux, be calm, cool, collected. stuff like this gets resolved much easier when there’s more talking and less yelling/arguing.

good luck. :D

kkk i talked to her and she said she will tell him to lay off and that if he continues then she might have to stop being friends with him if he cant accept the fact. Then she said that i dont have to worry bout anything he says or anything he has said to her because it never mattered to her anyways because she knows me enough to know what are lies.

thnx guys.

When you’re on the receiving end of the discussion (the listening end), it’s more respectful to *discuss* rather than yell. =) I feel like someone’s b*tch when I’m being yelled at. Haha—thus making me cry. Like this ~~~~~~~>  😢

=P

[quote author=“gohan_bcc1”]kkk i talked to her and she said she will tell him to lay off and that if he continues then she might have to stop being friends with him if he cant accept the fact. Then she said that i dont have to worry bout anything he says or anything he has said to her because it never mattered to her anyways because she knows me enough to know what are lies.

thnx guys.

That’s awesome 👏 I’m glad you and your girlfriend have great communication like that. It’s very admirable in someone your age 😛 LOL No offense—you’re not like that at all.

I swear…

Aw, crap =\

i know ive been with her for a month but only really been a week since she was gone all of august. Anyways yeah good to see. Everyone is surprised with it as well. But heck everything comes to an end… maybe ill be lucky haha. 1 in a million.
But if it werent for your good advice then i dont think i would have known out communication was this good.

Can’t get a break, can you Gohan.  Listen, if you got beef with someone you always take it up with them.  Say what it is they did that you didn’t like and how it’s bothering you.  Don’t get someone else in the middle.

i did ask him whats his problem and he said nothing to me. But yet he still says stuff behind his back. Hes just plainly a little *****

do the “spy” thing and when you confront him put a voice recorder in your pocket and if he says anything you have proof 😛 😉

hahhahahah i already settled it. But that would be smart lol.

just kick him in teh nuts and get it over with.

lmao.. nah if i touched him i would be dead… he has so much leb backup.

leb?

lebanese. i dunno how to spell it.

ya, ok, come on man, you’re asian. there’s like a trillion of us!

the music must have fuked up my head, cuz i cant understand the first sentence :lol:

haha. True but i dont wanna any fights breaking out.